When you sit and think about the life you want to create, do you ever feel like there’s a certain line of accomplishment that you’re not allowed to cross? As if the limits of your life and what you want have already been chosen for you?
If you’re nodding along, know that you’re not alone.
If you’re shaking your head and mouthing the words, “Nahhh, I’m good,” I either applaud you…or call bullshit. Anybody can puff their chest and say they operate without limits, but when life gets real, those that are peacocking tend to shrink back down to size.
Limits, boundaries, and glass ceilings are all too real.
But if you find yourself stuck in place because of them, let me ease your mind:
It’s not your fault.
Any imagined limitation that you may feel the presence of is only there because of your current capacity for life and what it has to offer.
Your limits are due to your limited life experience. Your realm of possibility is determined by what you have seen to be possible.
It’s not necessary to see something to believe in it, but it makes it a hell of a lot easier to settle into if you’ve experienced it at some point.
If you grew up in a wealthy family where money was never an issue, your mental limits around the accumulation of wealth probably aren’t too constricting.
On the contrary, if your family struggled to pay the rent or put food on the table, you might feel suffocated by your perceived inability to stack cash.
If your parents have a loving marriage that has stood the test of time, you’re more likely to not only want that for yourself, but believe it can happen.
However, if your parents had a nasty divorce when you were a kid, your capacity to believe in lifelong love will have some obvious limits.
You get the idea.
Your experiences in life up to this point have created limits in your mind as to what is possible.
But you’re not doomed to the box that these experiences have put you in. You can rise above and grow your capacity for an amazing life.
But first, you need to be aware of your perceived limits and why they’re there. Get curious about your mental blocks and do some investigating.
Why is it that you don’t believe you can make millions? Is it because you were raised in a working class family that didn’t have a lot and threw shade at those who did?
Why is it that you have been waiting 5 years to ask your girl to marry you? Are you really in no rush or is it that the divorce that you got caught in the middle of has turned you off from the idea of wedded bliss?
Why is it that you keep sabotaging your chances of that promotion at work? Is it just coincidence or has your experience taught you that when you’re given more responsibility you drop the ball, so you blow your chances preemptively?
This curiosity is going to come with a few hard pills to swallow, but the mental exercise will allow you to see that your limits are merely in your mind.
Your prior experiences don’t determine what your future self is capable of.
The sooner you can see your limits for the facade that they are, the easier it will be to surge past them and create an unfuckingbelievable life.
You are worthy of a life past your limits.
Don’t settle for something just because your experiences have boxed you into it.
You are meant for so much more.
Reach out if you need some perspective and some help in identifying those perceived limits. It will rock your world and allow you to build something bigger than you could ever imagine.