What are you grateful for?
Take a second and think about it. Don’t just keep reading! Think about it.
Now, what came to mind? Your spouse? Your job? Your children? Your friends? No matter what you thought of, I’d be willing to bet a large sum of money that it leaned towards something positive. Things that make you happy. Pieces of your life that you enjoy.
Every morning I ponder this same question and list three things that I appreciate in that moment. This morning’s entry noted the following:
-I am grateful for silly moments with my wife (we had a little too much fun with Snapchat filters last night).
-I am grateful for the opportunity to join forces with friends as I use my writing to help them with some business ventures.
-I am grateful for my family and all their love and support.
Positive, positive, and more positive. There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m an optimistic person, and I’m going to lean positive in most scenarios anyway.
BUT…there is something to be said for having gratitude for the negative. Appreciating the miserable moments. Loving the lows. It’s hard. It’s really hard, but it’s necessary. It’s easier to do in retrospect than it is in the present, but it’s not a simple task either way.
Why is it important? Because it’s in those moments that we grow, we find perspective, and we realize what’s missing. It’s in that funk or that failure that we realize “Nope, this isn’t for me. I need to make a change.” Without pain there is no pleasure. The contrast is necessary.
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows…it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.”
There will be hard times. There will be struggle. When those moments hit, get up, dust yourself off, and be grateful for the opportunity to show the world what you’re made of.
Your girlfriend cheated on you? Be grateful for being shown that you deserve better.
Lost your job? Be grateful to start anew and for the ability to choose which path you take next.
Lost a loved one? Be grateful for every moment you spent with them. What did they teach you about life? Use it.
Hit rock bottom? Be grateful that you can only go up from there.
People love to talk about unconditional love all the time. Love your partner through the highs, the lows, and see it through. Fight discomfort with love. Counter sadness with love. Meet pain with love. It doesn’t matter the conditions of your relationship, you always need to bring love to the table.
I think we need to start a movement of unconditional gratitude. It doesn’t matter the conditions of your life, show up with gratitude in every moment. Love your life through the highs and the lows. Be grateful for your beautiful new baby, but also the struggle in getting pregnant. What an amazing gift that came from the pain beforehand. Be grateful for your spouse, but also grateful for every relationship you cried your way through on your way to meeting that person. The other people you loved taught you lessons about yourself and what you needed from your forever partner. They were simply preparing you. Be grateful for your health, but also the pain of every mile ran, every rep and every set along the way.
Be grateful for it all. It all shapes who you are today and who are destined to become. Highlight the highs, note the lows, and know that each moment is serving you in some way. Don’t take any of it for granted. Lessons can be learned on your lowest days. Be grateful for the opportunity.
Unconditional Gratitude. Let’s start the movement. Share with someone who could use the message 🙂
Until next time,
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