I’m sure we can all agree that self-worth is essential.
If you don’t think you’re worthy of anything, then you won’t make yourself emotionally and mentally open to:
- Beautiful relationships
- Fulfilling careers
- A healthy and fit body
- Honoring your own time and energy
Without self-worth, you’ll settle for anything that life throws you, assuming that you’ve gotten whatever it was that you deserved.
That’s no way to live.
The more worthy you feel, the more you can embrace, accept, and pursue in your life. The higher you raise the bar of worthiness, the less you’ll feel limited.
But there’s one problem:
I can’t give you self-worth.
Your mom can’t give you self-worth.
Your spouse can’t give you self-worth.
It’s called SELF-worth for a reason—it can only come from you.
At the end of the day, it needs to come from within.
Other people can shine some light on why you should feel worthy, but ultimately you have to decide how worthy you are.
Now, that last sentence can either be empowering or crippling. You may see the opportunity to choose your worth as an incredible gift. But if you currently don’t see evidence to feel great about much in your life, you may freak out at the notion that you have to find a way to feel worthy of more.
Whatever camp you find yourself in, let’s dive into the details of how you can raise your levels of worthiness. It truly can be the difference between a mediocre life and a magnificent one.
Own Your Successes
Taking ownership of who you are and what you’ve done is a huge piece of stepping into your best self.
The problem is that the concept of taking ownership involves owning everything—our strengths and our weaknesses.
Most of us have a pretty good grasp on how to own up to the weaknesses. We’re able to be honest and say that we’re not good at something or admit when we’ve made a mistake. We may not do it 100% of the time, but we certainly try to.
It takes a good dose of humility for you to step up and admit when you’re wrong or when you need help.
Where you may fall short in taking ownership is acknowledging and celebrating your strengths. You know why?
The more humility you have, the harder it is to pat yourself on the back when you do something good.
But giving yourself a shoutout for your strengths is just as important as shedding light on what you struggle with.
When you look back at your life—NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE—I promise you that there are glimpses of genius that you’ve been underplaying, covering up, or straight up deleting from your memory.
It’s that damn humility of yours rearing its ugly head.
So you sit and wait for someone else to tell you how great you are, even though you’ve known that you’re a badass all along.
And that’s where things get tricky.
If you leave it up to someone else to acknowledge your greatness, you might be waiting for a long time. The longer you wait, and the less you remember how awesome you are…
…the lower your levels of self-worth become.
Take back ownership of your successes and all the things you’re good at. Here’s some ideas on how to do just that:
- Keep a running log or google doc that lays out the amazing things you’ve created.
- Have a reminder pop up on your phone 3 times a day that lets you know some of the awesome things you’ve accomplished.
- For every weakness you humbly admit to, write down one strength or success that is all yours.
That should give your self-worth a nice little spike.
Stop Projecting Your Past Onto Your Future
You are limited by your experiences that you’ve had during the time that you’ve had a pulse—but you don’t have to be.
Too many people subconsciously create their future by using templates from their past.
- “Well, my dad cheated on my mom, so that’s what marriage is about.”
- “I’ve always had debt, so I always will.”
- “Every time I’ve tried to lose weight, I gain it all back. What’s the point in trying?”
Don’t let yourself fall prey to this flawed thinking.
Change requires change—and that change is always available to you.
You don’t have to binge eat your way back to your starting weight every time you try to get in shape. You can choose to change your mindset around food and your belief in your workout regimen.
You don’t have to be in debt just because you always have been or because it seems like everyone else is. You can cut expenses or create a side hustle that supplements your income, using that extra money to pay down your debts.
No matter your circumstances, they don’t have to run on a loop from your past to your future.
You can step in and change the outcome by changing your approach and pursuit of your goal.
Knowing that you have the power to do this—and more importantly, are worthy of creating this change—will be the jolt your system needs to make some amazing things happen in your life.
You are never your past.
That stuff is in the books.
You can’t change it.
There’s no point in wasting energy in trying.
Your identity doesn’t have to be wrapped up in what has already occurred.
Instead, build it around what you are willing to do to create your future.
In that decision, you will find more self-worth than you could ever imagine. Because as soon as you acknowledge that you are not limited by your past experiences, you’ll see that infinite options are available to you and you are worthy of every single one.
As soon as you own your success and put down the weight of your failures, your world and your worth will open wide to your dreams.
Take these action steps and implement them in your life today.
Let me know how it affects your outlook!
Keep Moving Past Mediocre,