You observe your friend feeling amazing in a fulfilling relationship.
You see in the paper that someone you graduated with has a flourishing business and just made their first million.
You hear that the kid that you used to tease for being fat has lost a ton of weight and is married to a model.
“Must be nice.”
Those three words right thereㅡthey are poison.
The Sarcastic Subconscious Shove
Let’s face it, there hasn’t been a genuine use of the words “must be nice” in the history of mankind. Each words drips with more sarcasm than the last.
Your subconscious mind is pretty good at picking up sarcasm. When you say something “must be nice”, and you’re really giving off the vibe of “that’s not all that great, and it annoys me that they’re successful and I’m not,” your brain takes note. If your brain picks up signals that you’re not really happy or interested in someone’s well deserved success, it will find ways to sidestep your chances of achieving anything in the same ballpark.
So, by throwing some sarcastic shade in the direction of things you may actually desire, you are pushing them further away from you.
That incredible relationship that you desire deep down will be closed off from you.
The salary that you secretly want more than anything will never find its way to your paycheck.
The fit and healthy body that you have been hoping to create will just stay flabby and less than ideal.
All because you couldn’t honor someone’s hard work and chose to breeze by it with sarcasm and a liiiiiiitle bit of resentment.
Luck Has Little to Do With It
Another reason that a statement like “must be nice” could get you permanently wedged into that rut you’ve been spending your time in is because you’re showing that you think luck had something—or everything—to do with it.
The more that you lean towards luck instead of acknowledging the effort someone put into their success, the less you’re going to value hard work.
Instead, you’ll just sit around waiting for a similar stroke of luck to grace your life like it has for the person in question. You’ll think,
“Well, it seems like they just showed up to work and waited it out until they got promoted. A little time and a lot of luck seems to be the formula he used, so I’ll just do the same.”
But you don’t see how many extra hours he put in after you went home at 5.
You don’t see the value that he brought to your boss when he needed someone to come through on short notice.
You don’t see the relationships he’s built outside of the office that can be of huge benefit to your company.
All you focus on is how lucky he is to have stumbled into such an opportunity.
If They Can Do It, So Can You: Stop Letting Yourself Off Easy
By throwing around sarcastic phrases like “must be nice,” you are separating yourself from the world in which the subject of your sarcasm achieved their success.
“Must be nice that they can [insert massive achievement] in their world of rainbows and butterflies, but that just ain’t happening over here in the real world.”
You do realize that this steaming pile of bullshit is just a mounting heap of excuses that you’re using to let yourself off easy, right?
If you rationalize that someone else reached a certain level of success due to luck, an inheritance, or some other catalyst that you don’t think is available to you, you’re letting yourself off of the hook.
You’ll believe you can’t get a promotion because your daddy doesn’t have connections.
You’ll think that the relationship that you envy isn’t possible for you because you don’t have the time to travel like they do.
You’ll believe that you can’t get in shape because you weren’t “gifted” with the metabolism that your buddy is.
Again and again, a statement like “must be nice” will keep you stuck and stewing.
In reality, if another human has something, you can have the same thing—or something similar, don’t go stealing anyone’s girlfriend—if you’re willing to lose your fictional story and work for it.
Your story and mindset about how they have a leg up on you is only affecting one person—you.
It’s keeping you down while they’re busy growing and making something of their life.
Stop cutting yourself off at the knees with sarcastic comments and negative mindsets.
You are worthy and capable of attaining anything you want…
…you just have to stop voluntarily creating obstacles by subconsciously pushing them further away from you.
See you next week,