June 2013: I decided to hit the town with the guys with nothing in mind but having some drinks and enjoying the time spent with my closest friends. That night I met a girl named Christina.
June 2014: The girl that I met a year ago is now my girlfriend. I’m so crazy about her that I am packing up my life and moving to her hometown, an hour and a half away from where I’ve lived for my entire life. We get engaged within a month of sharing a home together.
June 2015: After a year of teaching full time and part time at two different schools upon my arrival to Christina’s hometown of Rochester, I’ve landed a permanent position in a quality district. I finally found a teaching home, and I’m thrilled.
June 2016: Christina and I finish off the school year by hopping on a flight to California. We spend the next week driving down the coast, enjoying the best cities Cali has to offer. Side note: a week prior to our trip I start a little blog called Moving Past Mediocre; you know, the one you’re currently reading.
June 2017: Here I sit in the airport, just as I did last year. This time, though, I’m flying alone. I’m not jet-setting off to some obscure location to get away from my wife, don’t worry. I’m heading to Arizona to attend an event called Meltdown in the Desert 2. Think of it as a conference where social media and entrepreneurship collide over the course of 48 hours.
Why am I heading out to this random event about entrepreneurship and social media, you ask? Well, if you haven’t picked up the theme here, a lot has changed in the last year.
This blog that I started in an effort to share tools, methods, and practices that I’d learned as I entrenched myself in the world of personal development has led me down an interesting path. I wanted to grow the reach of this blog so that I could impact more people with the lessons that I had learned in my own experience. I felt that if someone was open enough to hear the message, they too could experience a shift in mindset that would open their eyes to the numerous possibilities in life.
I found a mastermind group led by Tommy Baker (Resist Average Academy Private Mastermind), and took a leap of faith that he and the gentlemen involved in the group would challenge me to run right up to the edge of my comfort zone and jump off. If I wanted to make an impact, I knew I could learn a lot from the men in this group.
In an attempt to not bore you with the details, let’s fast forward. Today I am:
- A freelance writer making extra money on the side for my family and I
- A men’s relationship coach, helping men of all ages and backgrounds become the man that they and their significant other can be proud of
- The leader of a powerful Facebook group (Moving Past Mediocre Personal Growth Hub) where inspired people come to share quotes, books, podcasts, and motivating messages to help everyone else grow
I am going to this event in Arizona to surround myself with people that are crushing it in the market and learn how to level up my personal and coaching brands to accelerate my progress.
In short, a lot has changed. My life continues to change and reshape itself from year to year, and as I reflect on how it has, I can’t believe the directions it has taken.
Change is permanent. Life is change. The only thing that never changes is change itself.
The interesting thing is this: Life will change with or without you.
You can choose to act on how your life changes.
Or, you can sit back and watch as people, places, and the circumstances around you change rapidly. Then, as your life shifts in ways that you don’t enjoy, you’ll get upset with how the world has moved on without you.
My life has changed immensely since 2013, but it’s only because I took some action towards it changing in my favor.
June 2013: The night I met Christina. I forgot to mention that a month prior to meeting her, I ended a 4.5 year relationship that I wasn’t fulfilled by. If I didn’t decide to act on that notion, I would have never met the love of my life.
June 2014: I packed up my life and shipped out of town. Was it a risk? On paper, maybe. I walked away from a job I didn’t mind, friends that always had my back, and a family that I love. But my gut said go, so off I went.
June 2015: I took a risk leaving one job for the next during that school year, but it all culminated with me landing a teacher’s dream job. It didn’t fall in my lap, I earned it by taking action.
June 2016: I started this blog knowing that I would catch shade from some of the people closest to me. Understandably, my friends and family were a little confused. I don’t blame them, it was definitely out of the realm of who they knew to be Nick Matiash. But I fought that inevitable resistance and kept writing.
June 2017: I invested money, time, and energy in myself and my own personal growth and here I am. I await a flight that is going to take me to this Meltdown event and I have no way of knowing how it will affect my life.
Maybe I’ll grow my business. Maybe I’ll be inspired to write a book. Maybe I’ll be gearing up to speak on stage at the same event next year.
I really don’t know. But what do I know? Life will be different next year, and I promise you that I will take action every step of the way so that I bring bigger and better opportunities around for me and my family. I hope you do the same for yourself.