Drop a frog in boiling water, and it will jump right back out. No questions asked, it’s not wasting time, it’s getting the hell out of there. Drop it in a pot of cool water and slowly increase the temperature, and we have a different story on our hands. As the waters temperature increases from cool to lukewarm to hot, the frog is enjoying the hot tub like setting. It’s comfortable. It’s cozy. Why would it want to leave? Then, before you know it, the frog has overstayed it’s welcome. The temperature has increased to an uncomfortable level, but it can’t move. The warmth and comfort of the water are paralyzing. The water is starting to boil over and the frog is stuck there, trapped by their own sense of comfort.
I read this metaphor in a book and I immediately saw myself in the boiling frog. My life has always been comfortable, and I’ve never seen a need to create any changes that would take time and effort. I’m incredibly grateful for not having to deal with too much stress and strife in life. To quote Farrah Gray, though, “Comfort is the enemy of achievement.” Like the frog, I was content with just sitting back and not making a splash. In realizing the frog’s unfortunate fate, I found myself asking a lot of questions.
Am I waiting around for something bad to happen?
Is there an opportunity for change and redirection out there that I’m ignoring because I’m too comfortable where I am?
Will my comfort zone be my demise?
If there are things that I can change and improve, what are they?
Naturally, these questions sent me down a rabbit hole of discovery and curiosity that I’m still happily working my way through. First came the books, then the podcasts, then the documentaries. I was grabbing any content I could hold onto that could teach me how to grow and benefit from challenging the edges of my comfort zone. Finding anything that could keep me from the fate of the boiling frog was my aim. I was, and still am, never going to let what makes me comfortable blind me from much-needed opportunities for change.
Now that I’m knee-deep in it and can confidently look back and say I’ve made some substantial growth, I wanted to share what people, concepts, books and podcasts have been a fixture in my journey. Each Friday I will come to you with one piece of my ever growing puzzle and share my insights that I’ve learned from it.
To kick off our first edition of Boiling Frog Friday…
Tommy Baker and the Resist Average Academy Podcast
I stumbled upon Tommy by chance after diving into some content from one of his, and now my, virtual mentors Tom Bilyeu of Quest Nutrition. Bilyeu has a podcast and YouTube show called Inside Quest (I will definitely dive deeper into Tom and what he’s done with Inside Quest in another edition of Boiling Frog Fridays) that I was drawn to early in my quest for growth. After seeing and hearing a lot of his content, I fired up the Google machine to see where else I could find him. Through this search, I found Tommy Baker’s podcast Resist Average Academy, where Tom Bilyeu was slated as a guest (see specfic episode at the end of this post).
As soon as I started listening to their conversation on the podcast, I could feel the energy and the knowledge coming from the Tom that I didn’t expect: Tommy Baker. Tommy has an enthusiasm that is unmatched in the personal growth space. You can feel his energy as he discusses everything from communication to fitness to relationships. He covers a wide gamut of topics, all with the aim of making himself and his listeners better people.
The one constant that I’ve truly appreciated from Tommy has been his emphasis on taking action. It is something that I’ve leaned on heavily as I’ve done my best to grow over this past year. Making a game plan, charting out goals and visualizing your future are great, but taking action towards them is optimal. The theme of action in all that Tommy discusses has really resonated with me and I’m sure it will with you as well.
Another great thing about following Tommy is that he is relatively new to the podcast game. He’s about 50 or so episodes in, so you can see and hear his growth as he progresses. As someone who is on a path of growth myself, it has been cool to watch someone I’d consider a mentor grow along with me. His starting blocks may have been a little further down the track than mine, but growth is growth all the same. It’s been great to watch him model the process.
I shot him a message on Twitter to get some more personal info from him for this post, and he was kind enough to respond. Below you’ll find his responses to 3 quick questions that give you some of his background and mindset as well as links to his podcast and some of my favorite episodes. Check him out guys, he won’t let you down!
What outside source of information (book/person/concept) had the greatest impact on your current path or mindset?
I would have to say, without a doubt, Dr. John Demartini has had the largest single impact on my mindset. At a very young age, I had a deep thirst for asking an answering two questions:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
And paradoxically, the deeper I went into these questions, the further down the rabbit hole of the quest of nonstop learning became my obsession. Dr. Demartini has a large influence on my life, for his ability to combine science, philosophy, psychology and human behavior for maximal empowerment in our own lives.
What event or experience has shaped your life the most?
Starting and running my own fitness business after graduating college was the biggest smack in the face, real world MBA that truly taught me so many lessons about myself, my capacity, my leadership and the challenge of life, people, and business.
If you could sum up your advice for a quality life in one sentence, what would it be?
There is nothing in the external world that can replace the wisdom and magnificence you hold in the inner world.
To echo Tommy’s thoughts here, it all starts from within. Outside sources of pain or pleasure can’t decide who are or who you are going to be. Start with what’s inside of you and let that spill out into the world around you. Don’t let theflow go in the opposite direction.
Episodes to check out:
Episode 40: How to live life as a modern day warrior with legendary MMA coach Firas Zahabi
Episode 39: How to observe, connect and influence with Shari Alexander
Episode 29: The art of the pivot and how to take nonstop action with Kolby Kolibas
Episode 23: Escape the matrix, live an inspired life and become a real life Jedi with Quest CEO Tom Bilyeu
Until next time my friends,